Published Saturday January 22nd, 2011

In the wake of the horrific shootings in Tucson on Jan. 9, the U.S. media, as only they can do, have really wound me up by turning this tragic event into somewhat of a Medusa.
They have dutifully dissected almost every angle imaginable. I have listened to arguments and opinions by journalists, politicians and entertainers from all sides. They are bandying around what appears to be a new concept to them – civility.
However, they have missed the most important point of their discussion on civility in politics. I’m not sure if they just think civility sounds like a good thing to be talking about – if they actually think they are an authority on the subject – or if they are diving into deep and murky waters where monsters live.
In a nut shell, civility must begin at home. It can only spread to every aspect of our lives from there. Without civility at home, there is no chance we will carry it through the day into all of the arenas of our busy lives.
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